THIS HAND OF MINE IS BURNING RED
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Post by middy♥ on Jan 11, 2015 0:56:31 GMT -8
I've done it before, but I'm not a fan. I actually met him in person and stuff too; we only made it "official" after we had met and the feelings were still there. But it's hard, knowing that you can't be there with them when you want to be there and vice versa. I guess some people are cut out for the waiting part of it, but IDK. I just couldn't do it. Communication is a big thing to me, and sometimes tone gets lost in translation and it just made more tension than was worth. Even when we Skyped/Cammed or talked on the phone, it was difficult.
But I'm in a very happy relationship that is not long-distance, so I don't need to date online anymore<3
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Post by Raven Flames on Jan 30, 2015 14:22:27 GMT -8
I met my husband online, haha. We've been together for over two years now and have a 6 month old son. It really depends on the people I guess but it can work sometimes if you put enough effort into it. When we met, we saw each other in person two months later. He was from Texas and I was from Pennsylvania and it's been perfect so far!
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Post by ★SIRIUS on Feb 6, 2015 12:35:12 GMT -8
i like online dating, but i'm a mega introvert who spends 99% of my time online so it's perfect you see. i can date and rp at the same time. i'm socially awkward, so getting to know someone online first and then taking it to rl is a lot easier. and it's kind of nice to be able to get to know someone from the inside out, rather than the outside in.
JUST DON'T GET CATFISHED.
srsly, i've accidentally almost dated married women and guys who were pretending to be girls and girls were pretending to be hot emo guys. let's not even go there.
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POST CREATED Mar 13, 2015 0:16:07 GMT -8
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Post by ALLURA on Mar 13, 2015 0:16:07 GMT -8
Been there, done that and may be headed into that situation again. Honestly I try not to think too much about it but there's a certain point where that becomes impossible to do.
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Post by Buxx on Mar 26, 2015 8:37:46 GMT -8
I was interested in someone online, but now ... meh. I rejected her, was the inaccessable guy and now we chat sometimes and are kind of friends. I would freak out don't know what my significant other is doing while we're not chatting. But I know two women who met their boyfriends in roleplays.
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Phantom of the Black Parade
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Post by Kuroya on Mar 26, 2015 10:59:48 GMT -8
I've actually been with my girlfriend for three years now and we get along because we know how to make it work. We trust each other, we built up a relationship of almost a year before that, and to be honest, it doesn't bother either of us that we don't see each other and we've never laid eyes on each other. We Skype call when we can and she's one of the only people who has my cell number who I actually text even though I get Skype on my phone now.
I mean, I've also seen it go horribly wrong a couple of times with my friends, though they aren't my stories to tell. Personally, I think it depends on what you're looking for, what your expectations are, and what sort of relationship you have. If you're paranoid about someone cheating because you're not online, then online dating isn't for you. It's the same sort of thing as a long-distance relationship. If you aren't prepared to trust and accept the changes in the dynamic from the "standard" then it isn't likely to work out for long.
Again, it all really depends on where you are and what you want out of it. c:
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Post by ely on Apr 8, 2015 6:34:43 GMT -8
Middy, me just the same! After I met my husband online, I have no need to go online dating. But a year ago when I was desparate because of being alone, I thought noone wanted me. I created profile on KOVLA.COM/DATINGS/US/BOSTON and he texted me the same evening and asked me out:). Now we moved in together and we are going to get married next year. So, online dating is not the worst wayout...
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Post by elys on Apr 8, 2015 6:36:14 GMT -8
Middy, me just the same! After I met my husband online, I have no need to go online dating. But a year ago when I was desparate because of being alone, I thought noone wanted me. I created profile on kovla.com/datings/us/boston and he texted me the same evening and asked me out:). Now we moved in together and we are going to get married next year. So, online dating is not the worst wayout...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2015 22:46:10 GMT -8
I think online dating takes a monumental amount of trust. I think you have to be a strong person in order to put so much of yourself toward a person who lives worlds away. Because it's not like you can run to them when you need them. It's such a big risk, you know? it tests you in ways never imagined before and it pushes your boundaries beyond what you thought capable. And it can be both a beautiful thing to experience or a devastating blow that'll knock you down or carry you higher. it's not easy.
But the success of any relationship is all due to the strength of either person involved. How badly they want it and how much courage each one has to face the bad times and how strong they hold on when they don't want to let go but feel things slipping. Because it's just so easy to end it and run when you're online. Change your username and make a whole new alias. It takes a lot, and not everyone is cut out for it. And honestly, some people simply aren't meant for each other.
But you get apps like tinder and... what was it? kik? That dilute it and make people see the concept as a joke. I don't know. To each their own, I guess. I'm horrible at keeping relationships so I don't even know if I should be talking? x'D
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Post by GMOT on May 15, 2015 11:58:53 GMT -8
I've done online dating before, I had a relationship with a guy for about four months. We really liked each other until things kinda.. got hard in my life and I couldn't be around as much. (Couldn't be on for Valentine's Day, etc) I also don't count it as an official relationship, but maybe he did who knows. He was also really kinda odd.. really into taxidermy and death. Was a really good artist though, would consistently give me tips.
We were like 14-15 years old and maybe that's why it didn't work, who knows.
Biggest thing I can say is to be careful, and try your best not to get catfished.
#late
right now tho i'm in love with a really great guy irl and have been for around a year and a half so.
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Post by PEARL on Jul 5, 2015 20:44:05 GMT -8
i was all for internet dating and everything until my friend got taken advantage of. she was in a relationship with a guy for almost 6 years and she met him on our first rp site. the guy was from england and he adored my friend. well fast forward to six years and he comes to america, all of it paid for by my friend's mother. my friend's mother bought his ticket, money for clothes, food, and everything else. well it turns out the guy had a long term girlfriend back in england and was in a relationship with my friend for a free ride to america. there are a few people that find true love on the internet. unfortunately you get people that are not the best types of people if you date on the internet. i always stay clear of internet dating.
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Post by Pool Boy on Jul 5, 2015 21:03:23 GMT -8
Well, i tried it because this troll named xj9 on league of legends told me it was totally worthbit and meaningful, and ended up cheating in two months i was so thirsty. it didnt even matter that i met him irl. I actually found him to be less dateable and kind of disappointing when i met him irl. Not someone i could see a part of my future, as cold as that sounds. I lied to myself abt it, but it became clear to me when i fucked someone else how i felt abt him.
Now i just stay flirty friends and keep my options open. Ldrs are h4rd for me, plus not knowing how good they are in bed makes me doubt theres much of a future.
Btw im 24. n a total slut. im better at advice relating to finding good, safe casual sex online as opposed to actual dating. Everyone thinks girls get attached from sex. HA. HAHAA... nah. I need more than a skype chat to be seduced. More than a good bone. idk what yet is possible to get romantic feelings to stick, but ive not found a guy that didnt have dealbreaking flaws.
My advice to dating online- dont get blinded. make sure yr not with then because you like the idea of a relationship. Be with them because you like who they are. Dip asap if they dont earn yr respect.
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Post by PEARL on Jul 5, 2015 21:32:23 GMT -8
Well, i tried it because this troll named xj9 on league of legends told me it was totally worthbit and meaningful, and ended up cheating in two months i was so thirsty. it didnt even matter that i met him irl. I actually found him to be less dateable and kind of disappointing when i met him irl. Not someone i could see a part of my future, as cold as that sounds. I lied to myself abt it, but it became clear to me when i fucked someone else how i felt abt him. Now i just stay flirty friends and keep my options open. Ldrs are h4rd for me, plus not knowing how good they are in bed makes me doubt theres much of a future. Btw im 24. n a total slut. im better at advice relating to finding good, safe casual sex online as opposed to actual dating. Everyone thinks girls get attached from sex. HA. HAHAA... nah. I need more than a skype chat to be seduced. More than a good bone. idk what yet is possible to get romantic feelings to stick, but ive not found a guy that didnt have dealbreaking flaws. My advice to dating online- dont get blinded. make sure yr not with then because you like the idea of a relationship. Be with them because you like who they are. Dip asap if they dont earn yr respect. oh god. poor thing. hope you find someone nice. cannot imagine anyone will find someone decent in league of legends. i joined match.com a few days ago . . . . just to throw myself out there. i got winked and messaged by a 68 year old guy . . . . . another guy messaged me too and he seemed nice.
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POST CREATED Jul 5, 2015 21:49:04 GMT -8
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Post by Pool Boy on Jul 5, 2015 21:49:04 GMT -8
Well, i tried it because this troll named xj9 on league of legends told me it was totally worthbit and meaningful, and ended up cheating in two months i was so thirsty. it didnt even matter that i met him irl. I actually found him to be less dateable and kind of disappointing when i met him irl. Not someone i could see a part of my future, as cold as that sounds. I lied to myself abt it, but it became clear to me when i fucked someone else how i felt abt him. Now i just stay flirty friends and keep my options open. Ldrs are h4rd for me, plus not knowing how good they are in bed makes me doubt theres much of a future. Btw im 24. n a total slut. im better at advice relating to finding good, safe casual sex online as opposed to actual dating. Everyone thinks girls get attached from sex. HA. HAHAA... nah. I need more than a skype chat to be seduced. More than a good bone. idk what yet is possible to get romantic feelings to stick, but ive not found a guy that didnt have dealbreaking flaws. My advice to dating online- dont get blinded. make sure yr not with then because you like the idea of a relationship. Be with them because you like who they are. Dip asap if they dont earn yr respect. oh god. poor thing. hope you find someone nice. cannot imagine anyone will find someone decent in league of legends. i joined match.com a few days ago . . . . just to throw myself out there. i got winked and messaged by a 68 year old guy . . . . . another guy messaged me too and he seemed nice. honestly, leaguebis fine for findig honest people who want relationships. Its just... the ppl who seek that over league of legends dobt rly have much going for them. just a warning bae, all the dating sites, ok cupid to grindr, r filled with equal amounts of scumbags so keep yr guard up if yr not dtf. At least on tinder/grindr, people are more upfront that theyre there to fuck which is respectable bc its essentially asking for consent. but okcupid and pof reek of nice-guy syndrome horny rapists pretending they just wanna buy you a steak.
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Post by PEARL on Jul 5, 2015 22:41:48 GMT -8
oh god. poor thing. hope you find someone nice. cannot imagine anyone will find someone decent in league of legends. i joined match.com a few days ago . . . . just to throw myself out there. i got winked and messaged by a 68 year old guy . . . . . another guy messaged me too and he seemed nice. honestly, leaguebis fine for findig honest people who want relationships. Its just... the ppl who seek that over league of legends dobt rly have much going for them. just a warning bae, all the dating sites, ok cupid to grindr, r filled with equal amounts of scumbags so keep yr guard up if yr not dtf. At least on tinder/grindr, people are more upfront that theyre there to fuck which is respectable bc its essentially asking for consent. but okcupid and pof reek of nice-guy syndrome horny rapists pretending they just wanna buy you a steak. originally she wanted me to go on craigslist. i was like . . . . um . . . yeah . . . . probably a bad idea lmao. i am hoping when i get this new job at disney i can meet a hot Australian or British dude and fall in love with him. doubt it though. if you play league of legends, feel free to add me! i play all the time. my old account is alcotte but my new account is pearl millet. i play all the time. i main lulu.
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