[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

"Don't like" in a sense that YOU JUST HAVE A FEELING THEY DON'T LIKE but you never outright not get along with them or anyone calling bad things and besides your imagination, everything appears to be nice and good. I have a little issue right now where I feel like the main members dislike him but I really, really am enjoying my roleplay experience there. I'm not the type to change my ways so I can fit in and I do admit that I am a little eccentric for some people. If it weren't for a bunch of people like Tsun being around here, I think everyone would have thought I was loony.

There is a minority group that I really love in the site and they're the reason why I'm still there. They're hardly as weird as me but they're much more flexible when dealing with me. But since they're not around as often, I guess I get anxious and am actually considering leaving the site despite the immense enjoyment I have for my threads. Any tips on what I should do?

Signed
Jin's #1 fan

[Pool Boy]

The last time I felt like someone disliked me for being a loone (i have troll bones lmao), I retconned what had caused it and walked away from avidly seeking to plot with them. Try to avoid it tanz and stick to the neighborhoods of the site you enjoy ICly? OOCly as long as shits not hitting the fan, hmm, don't let it eat you up. People can be moody, and its weird your finding people who you think are annoyed with you bc you've like never come across as annoying to me.

Also, if you got good ol' tsun there, everything is bound to be a good time. I've done plenty of sites where I've been kind of a no body and only've been there to follow one or two of my peeps. So maybe just try to step away?

[darth vader]

you should think about how much i love you

[darth vader]

in fact

*gets down on one knee*

marry me tanz

[katya]

Most people have the common decency to avoid causing trouble on a site by interacting too much with people they don't like. If you're certain they don't like you (or close enough to certain; ie, you're not just being stupidly paranoid), and everything seems fine on the surface, speaking as an admin... better keep it that way?

From what you're saying, seems like you don't think talking out your differences is really a worthwhile option--either because it wouldn't work or because it's just too much hassle, same difference in the end. I'd say hang around there less when your friends aren't around. But don't quit. Just interact with the people you're having fun with, and try to minimize interaction with the others.

If you like your threads there, imo you flat out shouldn't leave. Yeah, rping is a community and social thing, but at its core, if you like your threads, then it should be something major pushing you away. This sounds relatively minor, and certainly not worth quitting if your plots are good and active. These days, it's damned hard to get active threads that you love on a site that's gonna stick around.

I know you well enough to say that I'm 100% sure you're not being an asshole, and if they don't like you, it's not because you're scummy scum scum or anything like that. So quite frankly, if you're too looney for them, that's their problem. Don't make it yours. Just keep having fun and try to stay positive. If it's really just too hard to stay positive with the overwhelming feeling that most people don't like you... like to the point that you can't just avoid the site and it's compromising the fun you're having with your threads, at THAT point, you should really leave. As long as you're still having fun and not causing trouble for the site, stay.

[konya]

When I get that feeling, I just pack up and move. OH, I HAVE IT IN MY HEAD THAT YOU DON'T LIKE ME? I'LL PACK UP MY TOYS AND LEAVE THEN.

But you should probably listen to others and not me.

[Deleted]

I used to have a lot of haters. actually I still do lolololol
I don't even care anymore. It's like I take pride in the fact that so many people despise me on various sites. It's the internet. It doesn't even get to me anymore.
GAIS I'M JUST A JERK AND YOU ALL DON'T REALLY REALIZE IT KAY.

and like konya, you should probably listen to someone else.
i'm just a unicorn

edit: but um, if you really feel like you aren't liked, it really depends on how much you are enjoying yourself. Roleplaying is meant to be fun. It isn't supposed to be something stressful, something that takes over your life, nor is it something that should cause you worries. If you don't feel happy when you roleplay, then leave. If you feel perfectly happy, then don't let anything out of character get to you.

It's just a bunch of pixels after all.

[redox-kun]

i actually like you better this way tanz but uh you didn't hear it from me

[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

Would it be a surprised when I say the feeling started when I popped in the cbox

Yeah, I figure I should just avoid them and like what I like, but since I got in the cbox (I don't really pop in often but sometimes I do) and talk to those people in the forum it was like getting in a pit of tar. Just not easy to get it off once you've stuck to it once. As much as possible, I want things to completely work out and get settled. I rarely do a flight response because I feel like that's just avoiding the problem. I guess people less make effort in the Internet. It baffles me. Well, not really. I'm just always like this.

I don't think roleplaying is just a bunch of pixels though. That would be gaming. In gaming, all you interact with is data. When it involves people, it's beyond pixels because it's people that make things "real." Maybe I take roleplaying seriously. I think I am a serious person in general. BUT BEING SERIOUS DOESN'T MEAN I CAN'T BE FUNNY SILLY TOO OKAY.

It's funny how you guys in general tell me to just leave if I don't like it lol. Since I can't mention the exact details, I guess you can't really give me concrete advices about it. I'm just mad how they tend to stop at pleasantries with other people and then they stick to just talking among themselves. They're not bad people, that much I know. I just wish they actually step away from their group, you know? Everything would be so much awesome then.

Talking about this makes me more optimistic. I'm going to pick my own advice and try to see if they would be less clingy to their clique. People can't change overnight and words tend to mostly just hurt them instead.

Thanks for everyone's comments. I like going against the crowd so since the majority is saying I go if I hate it, I'm deciding to stay so that I can love it. Not trying to be conventional but if people look at a thing in the same way, what are the chances they're looking at it wrongly? My philosophy in life. Brought me more trouble than good.

darth vader: I can't accept such a bland proposal

redox-kun: Yeah, I think I heard it from another person named redox

[konya]

Speaking as someone who thinks she knows the site in question, and has actually considered joining more than once... yeah, the cbox turned me off pretty much every time. Everyone seems lovely if you can talk about the things they want to but it feels very insular and I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. Also as someone who can't be a member of a site if she doesn't enjoy the cbox, I understand what you must be feeling 8C

Do whatever you want! Everyone reacts to things differently which is why this world is great. I'm picky and also kind of a bitch which is where my 'leave' stand comes from. Speaking for me personally, if I'm not having fun or feeling welcome, I'm not going to stick around because there are so many other RPs out there. If I even have to question whether I'm feeling comfortable, it's enough reason for me.

[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

Hahahahahaha I think you know but please don't tell anyone at all. I don't want to actually tarnish the site's and its member's name. Everything and everyone has their own flaws.

It sucks you may not eventually join because of it :x I've never goddamn even been in an rp site with you, Konya. If you change your mind, you would certainly be +1 on why I would stay lol

[konya]

lol i'm not going to change my mind. i've actually found somewhere else but i hope things work out i really do!

[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

why you no lie for my soft-maiden heart ;___;

[milachan ★]

It may be a little late but I'm going to put my two cents in here too. If I don't feel comfortable in a cbox or feel like I get a sort of generic hi, I find it hard to get in the mood to roleplay at all on a site. I like to be friends with as many of the members as I can because I love having a broad spectrum of people to roleplay with. That being said, if you're comfortable in the roleplays you're having and you feel happy within your group, I don't think you should leave. You shouldn't let a few people bring you down if there are others who are holding you up.

Does that make sense at all? xD

[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

Completely lol. You can never be too late for a party! I guess the moral of the story is that there will always be some bad shit to go with good shit.