[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

do you get ever paranoid when the other rper hasn't replied to you even though it hasn't been more than a week

because when I'm all caught up with my posts, I keep thinking, "omg were my posts terrible that no one's replied to me?"

it's just crazy thinking I'm 1/4 convinced still though but do you guys get episodes of this waiting paranoia?

[dandy]

I'm the same way. >no I never really like anything I write, so I'm paranoid about not giving people enough to respond to or even something worth responding to. When a few days pass, I wanna pm them all ";A; do I need to add more?", but then I don't because I know people are generally pretty busy IRL (I know I tend to be). I also think the pressure increases when there are multiple people in the thread, and I have to worry about if I'm supposed to stick to a posting order strictly or something. xD

so sorry if I annoy anyone in the future with an insecure pm

[katya]

Sometimes I take a month or more (pretty sure [red] has the questionable honor of waiting over three months for a reply from me once), so... no. I do it all the time. It's not personal! It's not even necessarily that I'm busy. If I take a long time, chances are that I either don't feel like it (and you and me are tight enough that I assume you're not gonna suddenly hate my guts for taking forever), or that I really, really want to write a quality reply.

Sometimes, I can churn out a good reply easy peasy. Good stuff is inspiring, yeah? Other times, I don't know what direction I want to take the thread, I'm not 100% sure how my character would react, or I just can't quite get the right mood/thematics into my reply, so I scrap it all to try again later. ...And that happens for like a week or two, before I finally say screw it, and post the next few hundred words I write.

Honestly, if I get shitty posts, those are usually the easiest for me to reply to. No pressure on me to write something beautiful, after all. It's part of the reason I don't mind rping with newbie rpers, even the ones that aren't very good at rping.

[HIMA]

hm i make people wait and i also get the same paranoia???

like, sometimes i really REALLY like a thread and then i get impatient, or im worried i haven't given enough or i suddenly think my rp partner thinks my character is horrible and doesn't want to rp with them like ever so i should just sit and cry

... and then i make people wait because i don't feel like posting or i don't have muse for that particular character or i feel the need to write something good or i find the thread dull. . . yeah. various reasons. sometimes im just in a mood for a fast thread and i make one and i believe i cause a lot of misery because i can sometimes post super fast for one thread and super slow for another. sighs.

[dream eater]

I make people wait.

I think I have posts to do for a person for like two weeks now. Of course, I talk to that person every day (worst part is that the only two non-event posts I owe are two this person and events are priority for me), and they understand and urge me to do the more important posts.

But yes, I have that paranoia as well, although I make people wait. People tell me that the reply is fine and such, but I'm rather critical about my own writing and I think that other people will. This is why I don't let anyone critique and overlook my writing unless I trust them very much, and that's only one person I know IRL. But yes, when I'm all caught up with posts and I really like a thread/have a lot of muse for it, I get really paranoid about it.

Also I'm prone to get really sad very easily about little things, and then tell people I am fine while I'm moping. And I act overly sarcastic. And then they get pissed and I'm like 'I'm so sorry' on the inside. And then the wait becomes longer and I'm like 'no my writing really does suck i just should quit rping no one likes me, no one will plot with me QQ'.

[Pool Boy]

I dont really get paranoid about slow replies. If I do get impatient, it would be if my thread partner were replying actively to every thread but mine, which has never happened.

If I make ppl wait, chances are, I'm making all the threads I'm in wait. I'm really meticulous about posting, and kind of OCD about posting for those that have collected the most dust versus newer ones.

If I'm not posting for some old thread, it's just because I'm in the throws of speed post for the day.

[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

Jun 18, 2013 14:00:40 GMT -8 dandy said:

so sorry if I annoy anyone in the future with an insecure pm

Hahahahaha

...I do this.

It's terrible when I settle to just asking the person in the cbox. I ramble.

Jun 18, 2013 17:22:45 GMT -8 dream eater said:

People tell me that the reply is fine and such, but I'm rather critical about my own writing and I think that other people will. This is why I don't let anyone critique and overlook my writing unless I trust them very much, and that's only one person I know IRL. But yes, when I'm all caught up with posts and I really like a thread/have a lot of muse for it, I get really paranoid about it.

lol this is why I prefer if people were honest with me. At least if they're feeling unhappy with the thread, I want to do better. I'm always usually happy with my threads because I'm the type of rper who usually leads the thread to a certain direction. When the other person isn't happy, I'm :C

[gojira]

lol if the thread isn't going in a direction, i give it an aim but if someone else has ideas i usually let them take the rein

which was a problem for tanz and my thread on pre bc she had an idea of what was going on but i did not and she thought i did ha ha ha ha she also made me wait months for a reply.

[konya]

In my experience (of pretty much everyone I've rped with in the past three/four years), if I have to wait much longer than a week, it means they're never going to reply. I get nervous and angry and pissed off because it means I have to start looking for partners again, as well as tie up loose ends and work out what the fuck my character is going to do now that the people who were potentially a big part of his or her life are now gone forever.

For me it's not an "am I quality" thing. It's a "do I really have to deal with this shit again" thing.

[pascaline]

Jun 18, 2013 13:05:15 GMT -8 Egao, Egao Everywhere said:

do you get ever paranoid when the other rper hasn't replied to you even though it hasn't been more than a week

because when I'm all caught up with my posts, I keep thinking, "omg were my posts terrible that no one's replied to me?"

it's just crazy thinking I'm 1/4 convinced still though but do you guys get episodes of this waiting paranoia?

Oh my God, ALL THE TIME. If it's been a while and I don't get a reply, I immediately spiral into a tyranny of the "shoulds" (psychology nuts, you know what I mean):

"Should I alter the post so there's more to reply to?"

"Should I just make another thread and maybe that one will get more responses?"

"Should I change my character, cause maybe no one is responding to them because no one likes them?"

"Should I apologize to the player, because maybe they aren't responding cause somehow I offended them?"

It just on and on and on until I get a post. Or drive the person I'm waiting for a response from nuts :'D

[milachan ★]

Jun 24, 2013 2:35:42 GMT -8 @konya said:

In my experience (of pretty much everyone I've rped with in the past three/four years), if I have to wait much longer than a week, it means they're never going to reply. I get nervous and angry and pissed off because it means I have to start looking for partners again, as well as tie up loose ends and work out what the fuck my character is going to do now that the people who were potentially a big part of his or her life are now gone forever.

For me it's not an "am I quality" thing. It's a "do I really have to deal with this shit again" thing.

): I'm sorry that kind of sucks. Thankfully I've not had that issue and I do kind of get nervous/paranoid when people don't reply but then my paranervousness gets removed for excitement when they do. I don't mind waiting a few weeks between replies because I know life can be busy, I just really love roleplaying with people xD

[Elena]

If I wait more than two weeks, it makes very difficult for me to get again in the thread's mindset, because in the meanwhile I am writing threads in the future and in the past.

And I do believe in pacing a story. My ideal pacing would be to receive an answer at 1-3 days after I posted.

[Zozma]

Jul 8, 2013 7:52:55 GMT -8 Elena said:

If I wait more than two weeks, it makes very difficult for me to get again in the thread's mindset, because in the meanwhile I am writing threads in the future and in the past.

And I do believe in pacing a story. My ideal pacing would be to receive an answer at 1-3 days after I posted.

I agree. Once it gets past this point, I don't care any more and even when the other player replies, I've completely lost all care for the thread.

As for the paranoia, no. I don't feel nervous, anxious, or paranoid when I wait. Usually, I just feel indifferent. Sometimes, though, I'm annoyed. If I liked the plot and the characters, it irritates me to wait. I have a personal preference to roleplay in a linear fashion, with one thread per character (part of the reason I like making several characters). While I understand people have lives, I would prefer that if they don't have the time to reply to me every couple of days, that they just tell me upfront so I can choose not to plot or play with them. We're just not going to mesh if you take too long to reply. It's nothing personal. I just can't stay interested.

There are two reasons why you might have to wait on posts from me and they are 1. I'm legit busy but I'll say something beforehand or 2. I don't care about the plot/characters. If it takes me more than a week to reply and I'm not busy... I'm not interested. Sad truth.

That said, though, I guess I have some people to poke. >.>

[Egao, Egao Everywhere]

Jul 8, 2013 17:27:05 GMT -8 Zozma said:

Jul 8, 2013 7:52:55 GMT -8 Elena said:

If I wait more than two weeks, it makes very difficult for me to get again in the thread's mindset, because in the meanwhile I am writing threads in the future and in the past.

And I do believe in pacing a story. My ideal pacing would be to receive an answer at 1-3 days after I posted.

I agree. Once it gets past this point, I don't care any more and even when the other player replies, I've completely lost all care for the thread.

As for the paranoia, no. I don't feel nervous, anxious, or paranoid when I wait. Usually, I just feel indifferent. Sometimes, though, I'm annoyed. If I liked the plot and the characters, it irritates me to wait. I have a personal preference to roleplay in a linear fashion, with one thread per character (part of the reason I like making several characters). While I understand people have lives, I would prefer that if they don't have the time to reply to me every couple of days, that they just tell me upfront so I can choose not to plot or play with them. We're just not going to mesh if you take too long to reply. It's nothing personal. I just can't stay interested.

There are two reasons why you might have to wait on posts from me and they are 1. I'm legit busy but I'll say something beforehand or 2. I don't care about the plot/characters. If it takes me more than a week to reply and I'm not busy... I'm not interested. Sad truth.

That said, though, I guess I have some people to poke. >.>

Yeah. I get the feeling of being busy. That moment when you read a reply, want to post back but can't and when you do, it's already been a week without you noticing - I think that's busy. But if you're in the site chatting doing nothing. I think it's an excuse. Just say you're not in the mood to reply?

Busy or not, an interested rper would be able to reply to a post at least once or twice a week. I strongly believe that. You really want to reply but may not be able to because of some things affecting your mood or eating your time.

That's why I want the thread to always be interesting and fun. When the other person doesn't share the same feeling - doesn't reply as quick as me - I get really discouraged and I feel like it's my fault. When a character I'm threading with is dropped...I get :I

[Zozma]

Yeah... I agree with that, too. No matter how busy I become, I always FIND the time to reply where I want to. (Which is why I said if people wait a week and I'm not busy... Yeah. Bad news for them...) I agree that it's best to just communicate that with the other RPer. It's not that hard to say "Dude, I'm just not feeling this thread/line/character." At least, it's not for me. I feel guilty sometimes, if I liked the other RPer but sometimes people just don't mesh.