the greatest general under the heavens
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Post by Egao, Egao Everywhere on Jan 12, 2015 5:46:01 GMT -8
When you've been having an awesome thread, without warning, your partner disappears. It's probably the shittiest thing I ever experience in RP. I mean, it just SUCKS. I feel like I FAILED and this happened to me quite a number of times. It just made me think, wow, did I screw up. IT'S LIKE BEING LEFT ON THE ALTAR. It really depresses me a lot I can understand poofing when the thread sucks but when it's good and you're both excited, it's something. I don't always play by the expectations of others so I feel like I screwed up the thread somehow. IT REALLY MAKES ME SAD. AND I'M READING MY OLD THREADS OLD THREADS THAT WERE GREAT GREAT OLD THREADS WITH ME AS THE LAST POSTER BECAUSE I WAS LEFT BEHIND :CCCCCCC It just makes me sad. SO SAD. WHERE DID I GO WRONG I LOST A FRIEND.
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idk i just think pinocchio has a really long wood
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Post by Nahara46 on Jan 12, 2015 7:30:44 GMT -8
no i understand this completely and UGH i hate it so much like, so much lost potential depresses me. It could have been so much and it just ended up being cut off in the midDLE AND NO WE WEREN'T DUN IT COULD HAVE BEEN MAGNIFICENTTTT. cries i always feel weird when someone never replies to me, like what happened? lots of feels for this.
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Post by Pandah on Jan 12, 2015 8:01:52 GMT -8
When that happens, I always feel like its my fault. xD The worst part is that you know that you'll never be able to replicate that sort of thing with your character so it's like the thread's gone with the wind. ;A;
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the greatest general under the heavens
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Post by Egao, Egao Everywhere on Jan 12, 2015 10:11:45 GMT -8
YEAH
EXACTLY
I FEEL LIKE IT IS MY FAULT.
I always act cool and am just like, "It was still awesome" but I died in the inside most likely.
The good thing is though - now that I'm thinking about it - is that I am able to move on and actually finish great threads too. So that's good. My finished thread record has actually been steadily improving for 2 years now. It hasn't gotten worse at all.
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Post by darth vader on Jan 12, 2015 11:05:20 GMT -8
come rp w me
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idk i just think pinocchio has a really long wood
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Post by Nahara46 on Jan 12, 2015 12:12:26 GMT -8
/offers myself up as sacrifice as well
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Post by Antiviral on Jan 12, 2015 12:27:29 GMT -8
I've been the one to disappear more often than I'd like to admit. Part of the problem, for me, is that I tend to get behind on posts some times, and the longer I get behind the worse I feel. And the worse I feel, the less motivation to post I have, and it's a nasty little cycle until I just give up, and run away. The older I've gotten, the better I've gotten at just getting over that, and posting, though.
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the greatest general under the heavens
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Post by Egao, Egao Everywhere on Jan 13, 2015 1:52:43 GMT -8
darth vader we've split into two separate rp paths I think only pokemon can bring us back Nahara46 start making a list of fandom characters you want to play...or not I don't think panfandom is your thing Antiviral I try to reply ASAP which I've been able to do really well after PRE 2 years ago. But I also have instances where I get what you're saying - post late, feel guilty, get lazy. I was like that in Fellox which made me feel REALLY BAD BECAUSE I FOUND THE PERFECT ROMANCE RP PARTNER WHO KEPT PATIENTLY WAITING FOR ME EVERY MONTH REPLYING TO ME INSTANTLY WHILE I TAKE DAMN 40 DAYS. I'M SORRY /CRIES. I LOVE OUR PLOT. WE COULD HAVE BEEN SOMETHING. BUT I FAILED YOU - - And this other one that took me 2 weeks even though I really like it still. So I think it's all about discipline in the end. Or rather, as always. We ought to avert the crisis by posting fast, I guess. When it's not possible, we just have to beat ourselves to death until a post pops out.
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Post by MASQUE on Jan 14, 2015 6:11:29 GMT -8
I mean I've been on both sides. I've waited for a post for three years if that helps
But honestly, on the vanishing side of things, I don't necessarily vanish unless I'm leaving the site or my muse has been entirely gutted it needs a bit to reset. Which happened to me on KoC for one (my muse was quartered and then rl drama just kinda executed it) and well on dta too, along with generally most sites. I go through high and low periods; high periods I'm on the ball, replying everywhere, multiple times, being a productive bug you name it.
and then something triggers a low and I do other things because I honestly feel caged and pressured and eventually if I don't get another high, I just kinda lose it for a few months. Honestly, high's are a lot harder to get since it requires actual other people involvement (interest, slight to hard pushing, you know, general awareness of my status and just how to push the right buttons) since elsewise I'll just guilt trip myself into continous lows. It's stupid.
But I'm generally optimistic, so I tend to hang onto things until it's irrevocably done. IF someone takes three months to post? NP, I'm just really, really happy I got the post thank you! I'm pretty stubborn and well 'treat others as you yourself want to be treated' is actually in effect with that.
/someone's gonna know how I work eventually just from topics like these lol
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A seadog looking for crewmates
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Post by Elena on Jan 17, 2015 7:45:50 GMT -8
So I think it's all about discipline in the end. Or rather, as always. We ought to avert the crisis by posting fast, I guess. When it's not possible, we just have to beat ourselves to death until a post pops out. Yes, I believe in writing discipline too. I do what I preach and I advised everyone to write consistently, regularly, as it is something most writers recommend, exactly in order to enhance inspiration and achievement sense. It didn't come from my mind, but from more reputed writers': 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. I am just one who follows their advice and I can guarrantee it is a good one for any writing endeavour. If you are waiting only for the inspiration to write, it might never come. If you are powering through the uninspired moment, then the inspiration will come later, while you are writing already. I do finish all the threads I can. When somebody abandons a thread, usually I find a creative way to finish it though, either by inviting somebody else into the thread, or by modifying the last post in order to suggest that the discussion or action continued offscreen. But first I try to contact the vanishing partner, to ask what happens and if I can change anything in my post in order to make her answer easier.
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Post by POLARBEAR on Jan 24, 2015 6:32:35 GMT -8
To be honest I really don't mind if the thread ends up dead. Usually because I'll end up having a friend role-play it with me or I just doodle the rest of the role-play and call it finished. L O L
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Post by Kratos on Jan 24, 2015 17:37:58 GMT -8
I think I've had so many threads just die that it barely effects me anymore.
I usually reply within 24 hours to a week, and once I hit the one week point unless I have something else super pressing to deal with I just make myself sit down and work on the post (though if the person I owe is really behind I'll hold off so they have some time to get caught up)
Like I won't lie, I get a bit sad about the fact that we didn't get to take it to the places it could have gone but I get over it really fast.
The only time I really dwell on it is when they don't disappear from the site, they just selectively decide to never reply to me again and even when I ask them about it (usually a reminder or to find out if there's still interest) I either get brushed off and ignored or told they still want in but then they never reply.
I have the patience of a saint with replies, I will wait a month or more if that's what it takes for you to get a chance to reply, I don't care how long a reply is, I'm happy just getting a reply, but more often than not people just stop replying to me and busy themselves with other threads. I fear I may scare people off because when my muse starts rolling I'm a monster on the boards. Replies left and right and I've had a thread hit 2.7k words for one post... and it wasn't the only long one in the thread. And if I'm not scaring people off I fear I may bore them because I have a love of simpler threads with kinda derpy happenings. Especially early on in plot because it helps me get a feel for a character which makes it easier for me to form more intricate plots and happenings between characters but even when I try to fast reply them people normally drop out on me.
Which is why I thread whore super hard. If one person won't reply hopefully the other five will yeah?
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Post by ★SIRIUS on Feb 6, 2015 14:15:24 GMT -8
IT'S LIKE BEING LEFT ON THE ALTAR. basically just this lol ^ but to throw in my two cents, i kind of think it's our responsibility to tell our partners when we're dropping a thread. that way there's no hard feelings, yeah? i get pretty bummed when someone disappears on me, and i know i shouldn't take it so personally, but srsly if people would just communicate i'd be chill about it. while i know it's easier to mysteriously vanish than have a confrontation, i'd rather know so i'm not left forever haunted like 'was it something i wrote? OH GOD I BORED THEM OFF THE SITE DIDN'T I' even though deep down i know that's completely ridiculous. i mean, if that's the case, christ, i've bored a helluva lot of people off sites lmao. i think i'm just paranoid
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Post by Ai on Apr 7, 2015 5:42:22 GMT -8
It's harder when your rp partner is also your partner in love.
And then they disappear
The kokoros break.
And the plots get pulverized.
Such hurt. Much wow.
But yeah, if only we can replicate those moments....it's still sad.
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Post by SEADRA on Apr 7, 2015 19:25:19 GMT -8
when i feel my muse or ideas draining for a thread, or if i can't decide how my character would react, i always ask for input from my rp partner but then they're like 'whatever you want idc' and i'm like BUT I HAVE NO IDEA WAT 2 DO so then i end up never replying cause idk wat 2 do like idk about you but when i have threads with people i like basically visualize how the thread may play out like i usually have a general idea of where i want it to go or multiple paths so i'm wanting to have your input too? ? is that too much 2 ask?
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